Elizabeth Diaries

Over the years, I kept wondering why most humans are terrible and why some humans are more soft, gentle and understanding than others. While some are harsh, mean, strict and overbearing. Then I thought it might be from their upbringing, their experiences, the parenting they saw or something else but I realized that there is more to just upbringing and experiences. So here are the reasons why most humans are terrible.  Many humans just live life without a purpose. Many humans don't have a hobby. They prefer sex, drinking alcohol and taking drugs as a form of releasing stress. Many humans haven't completely healed from their past, emotional pains, bitterness and childhood traumas. Many humans live life with high expectations. Many humans see others as a means to control, rule, make money and lead.  Many humans are faced with extremism. Extreme way of life and behaviours. Many humans focus so much on money and less on passion. Many humans are so full of pride. They can't be hu...

 Remember, you can't have everything in life. Maybe you may have everything, you didn't get them all at the same time, but you can definitely have a better life with what you have. You can have a better future, a better experience, a better life journey it all depends on you and what you want. So here are a few tips to getting a better life. Not a survival life, but a better life. Get Educated Education has never gone out of age nor season. Get informed, be aware of everything that is happening around and within you. It pays less to be ignorant than to be educated. You are at a greater advantage when you are educated. Go to school, learn, educate yourself. This way, chances are you will get a better life. Education exposes you to many experiences and opportunities. 2. Have a Purpose You wouldn't want to be going through life cluelessly. Would you? So you got to make plans and live a purposeful life. Where do you see yourself in the next five or ten years? Write down those d...

 Right from infancy to adulthood we have been taught the golden rules and table manners. Most of us might have forgotten it and probably lived our lives carelessly. Before I move further, I would like to explain what etiquette is. Etiquette are signs of good manners, good breeding, good conduct, good home training and civility. Etiquette is not only about eating without talking or washing dishes after a meal. There are more to it. Say thank you after an offer. Say I'm sorry when you have offended someone or stepped on toes. Don't shout in public spaces. Keep your love life, sex life and whosoever you slept with private. Zip up your mouth and your downstairs.  Be friendly and polite. Dress decently Take a mint or sweet after a spicy meal to avoid awful smell. Look clean and tidy. Brush your mouth and keep all private areas clean. Flush the toilet after use. Call or send a message before visiting a friend, colleague or relatives. Get goodies for anyone you visit. Avoid argument ...

  I get scared of one thing. I get scared of failing to build character. Maybe I may wake up one morning with a house, car, an endorsement, a job and I invest so much time in it then I forget the basis of it all, which is character. Character, habit and behaviours can be learnt, built and copied either consciously or unconsciously. It is made up of our background, environment, experiences and life. This is why I keep reading books, self-help books, I do research and study the lives of others. I learn how to be polite, kind and sensitive. Sensitive in the sense of showing empathy to people's problems. I don't take anyone unaware, I call them before I visit. I send them a text or a message to enable them be ready. I show courtesy and respect to everyone irrespective of age, body size, social status or class. After eating a meal, I say thank you to the person who prepared the meal. Good manners and character can be learnt. Be humble to amend any horrible character or behaviours yo...

 The world needs healing, organizations need healing, families need healing, homes need healing, individuals need healing and a rebirth of humanity. I came across lots of complaints of children about abusive parenting on Facebook, Twitter, Quora and Nairaland and I felt sad. Sad that I had experienced all of that and I know where the shoe pinches. You need to go through the horrible experiences to be sensitive to dysfunctionality. We need holistic healing. We have to heal physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, emotionally and financially. Hurt people hurt others. The reason why we have many angry, depressed, sadist and frustrated humans is because humans don't heal. Damaged generation keep damaging their kids and the abusive cycle continues. And we don't invite or even see the need for counselors, psychologist and therapist in our lives. I found it difficult healing trauma because I stayed with humans who didn't understand me. They might have loved me but the e...

  Before any other thing, I would like to say that there is an urgent need for counselors and psychologist in Nigeria. There is so much hardship, suffering, humans are frustrated, going through trauma or healing from trauma. Many people are depressed, jobless and even isolated. Some people don't have friends or people to talk to or even listen to them without judging them. So, the first thing that comes to people's mind is to post their problems on social media, blow an alarm or call for help or just to feel relieved a bit. I don't blame them or say how immature they are, because when people are frustrated the last thing on their mind is shame. When the heat is so much and they can't take it anymore, it calls for alarm blowing. No one is perfect anymore. I don't blame any living human being who cried for help on social media at some point. Especially feeling stuck in a terrible situation. It could be anyone and in most case worst than that. But what humans say or do...

 Outside the classroom, there are many life skills to be learnt. I actually learnt most of the skills from the hard knocks of life. Some things are not taught in school, it requires you living, experiencing and learning from your life and the lives of others. So the following are the life skills I learned outside the classroom. Listening Patience How to clean and wash How to cook How to give first aid treatment How to care How to do a research without being told to do so How to communicate Good manners and etiquette How to discover a passion How to relax and reduce stress Taking care of your health Do it yourself Take pictures Keep records Listening Listening is a life skill I don't take for granted. A lot of people communicate but do not listen. In fact they do not understand what has been said even before talking. It took me series of hard time to be humble enough to listen to others. I found myself in a place where no one understood me and I had no one to talk to. Then I discove...

 Today I am grateful for I am grateful for life. I am grateful for seeing the month of September. I am grateful for happiness. I am grateful for the ability to journal my past, present and future. I am grateful I discovered blogging. It has helped me in various ways. I am grateful for slow living. I try not to rush anything or do things that are way above me. I am grateful I can fix my problems without being too emotional. I am grateful that sometimes I can make decisions without my emotions interfering. I am grateful for self love and care. In a suppose selfish and carefree world, this is what has kept me sane. I am grateful, now I no longer blame anyone for my problems. I face my problems while ensuring I avoid toxicity. I am grateful I am still single and discovering myself. It has never been in my plan to marry early. I wished to build my career first before marriage. I probably can't tell the kind of person I would be getting married to, so it's good to do first thing firs...

Dear Diary, It's been a long time since I wrote this way. I forgot so soon how writing or chatting with a friend feels like. Today, I am grateful for; Love I am grateful for self care and self acceptance. I am grateful for happiness. I am grateful for peace. I am grateful for life. I am grateful for living life at 25. Some days, it is happy, fun, interesting, entertaining while some days, it is dark, sad, gloomy and bitter. I love every bit of the journey. I have learnt a lot from others especially from my parents and older sister. I am grateful I have food on my table and water to drink. I am grateful for healing. I am grateful for growth. I am grateful for everything. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️  

In this article, I won't say leave your abusive home, run away from your parents or start living in isolation. No! I can't do that. This advice you see or read on the internet or watch people say is so hard to do. Damn so hard! Especially when you are a minor, dependant, no job, no savings, very broke and even hopeless. I have had my own share of the experience so I can tell how difficult that is. And again, no matter how bad your family is, don't go telling everyone how terrible your family is. Don't be vulnerable with everyone. Don't point fingers, other fingers would be pointing back at you. So be matured, act matured, heal in a matured way.  I know how pained, hurt, broken you are, but heal your pains the right way so you won't have things bouncing back or backfiring at you. I am saying this from experience and I wish you a healthy healing. One thing I keep saying to anyone who has been abused is that, it's not your fault to be born into dysfunctionality...

 I say this again and again. Be intentional about anything you want in life. Be intentional about your journey, your dreams, your wants and your healing. Along my healing journey, I discovered the power of intentions. Say what you want and stick to it. Do what you want to do and stick to it. Be consistent at it. Choose what makes you happy and that which fulfills you. Don't chose anything for yourself because a friend said so, your parents said so or everyone said so. Do things with intention. Have a purpose and the reason you do the things you do. Focus! Always focus. There are a whole lot of distractions out there that can make you stumble if you are not focused. Be intentional about your healing. Personally, I had to say no to dating and marriage until I healed completely. I don't want to repeat the mistakes I saw my mother or any other woman did. I want peace and calmness. This is why I take my education seriously and dedicate years to building up myself. I can't imagin...

 I knew I needed a counselor, a therapist, a psychiatrist or a psychologist when I got through with secondary school and had to wait another year to rewrite my JAMB 2013 to 2015. My stay at home wasn't really a good one and even 2018 when I was done with my university, stayed at home for over two years and waited for my convocation so I could go for NYSC.  I didn't have a job or a skill to keep me busy. I was so frustrated and stuck at home with my Nigerian parents. And you probably would know how it feels to graduate from school and have nothing doing while still feeding from parents. 2018- 2020 were the years I felt depressed, sad, frustrated and started having thoughts of suicide. My parents loved me but they weren't you understanding as I wanted them to be. Gosh! The frustrations, anxiety disorder and depression almost took my life. I didn't know what to do with my life anymore. I kept running from house to house looking for safety and love but no one was ready to a...

I discovered a new hobby, reading blogs. Surfing the internet and reading personal blogs is my new found hobby. I feel inspired and encouraged reading the lives of others especially a diary, journal or personal blogs. And I do lots of research online too. Every morning, I peep through www.makingsenseofcent.com. Making Sense of Cent is a personal finance blog owned by Micheal. She started the blog to document her student loan debt. I enjoy visiting her site even now than ever when I read she is pregnant and would be expecting her baby in December. I am super excited and waiting to see her beautiful baby. Another blog I visit is www.Bellanaija.com. A lifestyle and entertainment blog owned by Uche Pedro. In her blog, you see beautiful brides, happily ever after marriage and beautiful Nigerian weddings and couples. One thing I love about Bella Naija is her positivity towards marriage. Even though many marriages today are collapsing, she till put up beautiful and lovely stories of marriage....

 Today I am grateful for life. I am grateful for good health. I am grateful for peace. Just being happy without anything being responsible for it. I am grateful for all the things I have in my life. I am grateful for my friends and the good people I have around me. I am grateful for love. I haven't found one yet but I am grateful. I am grateful for slow living. Waking up everyday, not rushing over anything and just living. So far, the feeling is wonderful. And I learned to trust God through the frustrations, obstacles, fears, tears and rejections. In my life I have seen the power of God. This is why I keep myself for Him and stay faithful to Him. No matter who I turn out to be, I will be grateful to God. I have gone through a lot already but each day, I thank God that those obstacles, bitterness and frustrations never took my life. I kept living. So everyday I live, breathe and see a new day, I give God praises.  Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

I have rested and rested enough. I wake up, sleep, eat and repeat same the next day. I would have gone to take the children on holiday lessons but the distance and the transportation has been so much for me. I can't continue that way again. I start searching for schools close by. Looking at my finances, I have really spent lots of money on transportation. My whole salary goes to transportation and it's draining me. I don't have any savings for myself neither can I do anything good with my pay apart from buying my personal stuff. A month I spend over 10k on transportation. So I really want to reduce cost and spend less. So, let's see what happens as life goes on. I will be keeping account of money I spend a month. I believe everything will be well with God's grace. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

  Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com The night before 31st July got us really thinking. Of death, of damages and just anything negative. All along, our minds had never rested. Same topic every month until it became depressing. My sister was diagnosed of fibroid and until the fibroid was taken out, she would have been constantly disturbed. This was the first time of going through such thing. A fibroid. Though my father had an operation about four years ago but it was hyena, not fibroid. So, we were so scared. The whole family was scared. Even though she had tried the local medicine of fibroid removal, none actually worked. She kept spending resources until she decided to be operated on. On the morning of the operation day, my mother prayed so hard. In fact she started crying even after they had booked a professional doctor who specializes on operation, she was still scared. My anxiety increased since I am so allergic to negativity. I kept on assuring myself that all will be well. The...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com Sleep has a great impact on health. Inadequate sleep may cause problems to us. Emotionally, mentally, financially and otherwise. So it's good we have a peaceful and sound sleep daily. But for that to be possible, you have to make it work. Below are the ways you can get a good sleep. Make your environment clean Brush your mouth Take a bath or shower Sleep on clean bedsheets and pillowcases Eat less at night Put off all technologies and social media Play a love song Let go of all negativity and worries Meditate and pray Write all your worries and problems in a journal Avoid wearing tight nightwear Use mosquito net, use an insecticide and disinfect the house from mosquitoes  To avoid dirt and mosquitoes, keep your environment clean. With a clean room, a clean space, clean bedsheets, a clean pillowcase you have a peaceful sleep. I literally sleep so well the day I make my room clean, wash my clothes and bedsheets. I sleep like a baby. So sanitation day...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com What are hobbies? Hobbies are those activities we engage in for fun, relaxation and to relieve stress or health issues. Many times, we feel hobbies are to be monetized or turned into a side hustle. But the truth is, to have fun and enjoy those activities, you have to eliminate the idea of making money from hobbies. Hobbies are meant for fun, relaxation and enjoyment. This is why you may get bored when your fun activities turn into a money making business or you can't make an expected sum of money from it. So to relieve stress, worries, anxiety, mental illnesses, you need a hobby that makes life better for you. Here are the hobbies that can better your life. Blogging (writing) Photography (taking beautiful images and pictures) Cooking Baking Gardening or farming Cleaning and washing Playing an instrument Singing Dancing Playing sports or games Painting Drawing Colouring Volunteering Knitting Sewing Dying materials Designing and decorating Planting f...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com Good news! Last week Thursday I got paid. Even though my salary is so low, at least it is better than doing nothing or staying idle all day at home or being broke. So, since I came back from Bauchi State, I have been working as a teacher. And I love it because it gives me enough time, besides education was what I studied in the university. Each time I get my pay. The first thing I do is getting my personal stuff. Yesterday I was at the market purchasing items I would use. The first items I buy when I get my salary are; Sanitary pad. Now, pads are so expensive and I go for the not expensive ones. I use Molped Sanitary Pad. Tissue paper Toothpaste. I use Oral B toothpaste. So far it's been good. Body cream. I am not so much into organic creams. The cream I use on my body is Vaseline. Fressia Perfumed Petroleum Jelly.  Bathing soap. I use Fresh Glow which contains turmeric and sandalwood. Body spray Detergents and laundry soap Face powder These are th...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com There are a lot of things in this world and even in our personal lives that can make us worry so much. And most times we worry so much until our blood pressure rises and lead us into a bigger health issue. The truth is that, you can worry a whole day, month and years and nothing really changes except you take action or exercise patience. Below are the ways in which you can stop worrying. Love yourself Show gratitude Don't make promises Avoid debts Do what you can Be patient Practice slow living Accept your flaws Forgive yourself and anyone that wronged you. Spend less time with toxicity.  Don't be over dependent on someone Loving yourself means you accept yourself for who you are. You love everything about yourself and you try to change a behaviour if need be. Have a gratitude journal where you list out the good things you love about yourself everyday. And even those qualities you hate in you. Keep a journal, document your journey and show grat...