HEALING AND A BETTER SOCIETY

 The world needs healing, organizations need healing, families need healing, homes need healing, individuals need healing and a rebirth of humanity. I came across lots of complaints of children about abusive parenting on Facebook, Twitter, Quora and Nairaland and I felt sad. Sad that I had experienced all of that and I know where the shoe pinches. You need to go through the horrible experiences to be sensitive to dysfunctionality. We need holistic healing. We have to heal physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, emotionally and financially. Hurt people hurt others. The reason why we have many angry, depressed, sadist and frustrated humans is because humans don't heal. Damaged generation keep damaging their kids and the abusive cycle continues. And we don't invite or even see the need for counselors, psychologist and therapist in our lives. I found it difficult healing trauma because I stayed with humans who didn't understand me. They might have loved me but the emotions and bond wasn't there. So you have to survive living life with messed up parents, messed up parenting and messed up environment where parents are always right and do no wrong. Then I always said that children who were raised by loving parents were so lucky. Not everyone had the icing on the cake. Some had to battle with terrible parents, terrible parenting, terrible homes and a terrible society. So this is where all humans problems and frustrations emanate from. And it gets really bad when their voices are held and they can't speak up or call for help. Churches are not even helping matters too, they end up complicating people's problems and homes with fake prophet, false prophesy and oracle. Either a child is being called a witch or the mother instead of tackling the root cause of dysfunctionality and issues in a home. I understand that humans can go into wrong places that can cause dysfunctionality, but healing can be done without blames or condemnation. Most humans are into evil, harmful groups, friends group, cult, evil societies that it starts having an effect in their homes, their behaviours and in their relationship with others. People have become so dedicated and focused in their work that they fail to build character, have fun and love their kids without abusing them, controlling or dictating their lives. And of course, they forgot to live life, until probably after retirement they discover the mess they have been in and how lonely life could be. Sometimes I don't blame kids who cry for help, many parents who were born in the 50s and 60s are rigid parents. They are yet to change with the world and adapt to changes and trends. In this century we keep having analogy parents with no feelings and emotions for children. People don't have to be forced to get married or have kids. Children should really grow into maturation or adulthood before raising a child. A child can't be raising a child. 

Also, be bold enough, be able to make good decisions for yourself and stick to it. Stop following friends. In this tiny little world of ours, you see people consult their friends before making decisions in their homes or for their lives. And these friends end up giving them not so good advice to act in their homes. The result of all these is usually not funny. So, everyone needs to heal, get a career or do something that fulfills, learn how to be parent, be a good mother and father, be a good wife or husband, have fun and share your time with your loved ones. If you can, avoid being a poor dependant. This is another thing that makes people feel so bad and sad. Putting all your hope in a person or thing that you think of committing suicide when that person is gone. Build yourself, discover what you love, discover who you are and your passion, enjoy your company, be your friend, build a relationship with yourself, have your own journey, concentrate on your business, help if you can. Life is what you make of it. Plan! Plan your life, don't just rush into something. Accept changes and corrections. Humble yourself and learn new things everyday. Don't stay stagnant in one place, environment or position, move further. Go to school, get an education, make a space in your life for improvement. As you work hard, build and plan, life gets easy as the day goes by. It won't be easy when you finish school, searching for a job or starting a career. Life gets easy when you have built a career or business for years, developed yourself and planned out your life.