Elizabeth Diaries

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com Learning can take place any where, not necessarily the classroom. Here are other ways to learn apart from schooling or staying in the classroom. Traveling Traveling is a great way to learn. Visiting places, experiencing events and places, taking pictures, creating good memories rather than being told is interesting. This changes ones psyche and makes humans cope and adapt with each other. I remember the day I got my NYSC call up letter and I saw Bauchi State. I was amazed. I didn't know if I should cry or smile or laugh. I never knew Bauchi, I had nobody there. So at first I was shocked. I went on Google, search the internet. I also asked within and I was told that Bauchi takes two days by road and an hour on flight. That is on transit, from one state to another then finally to Bauchi. The first journey, I took flight. I couldn't take road transport due to the cut on my leg. That was my very first time of entering a plane. I won't lie. I wa

Self-care has helped me so far. Through it I have compassion, love, mercy and empathy to myself and others. This is how I care for myself. 1. I do the things I love. It is stress free and enjoyable. I read, I journal. I write out my feelings, thoughts and emotions. This clears my mind. 2. I make a new hair. It relaxes and relief stress. 3. I live in the present. I put negative thought aside and focus on living in the present. 4. I live a day at a time. I don't rush things anymore. This cools down my anxiety. 6. I wake up early. I sit with nature. 7. I sleep and take a break. 8. I worry less about money. Money is important but I don't make it the center of my life. 9. I sit out with friends and interact with love ones. I call and have a good chat with them. 10. I drink water and take fruits each day. 11. I don't spend so much money on clothing. The little I have I wash them and keep it clean. 12. I keep my environment clean. A dirty environment can affect your mind, body and

Today  I am grateful for 1. Life 2. Sound health and mind 3. Happiness 4. I am grateful for blogging. 5. I am grateful for the holiday. I have had time to rest and no disturbance. 6. I am grateful for my body. Every part of me is complete and without pains. 7. I am grateful for my family. 8. I am grateful for websites, blogs, social media and technology which has brought everyone together. 9. I am grateful for the month of July which is getting to it's end. 10. I am grateful for everything. 11. I am grateful to God. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

Today, I woke up early, washed my hands, face and legs. I washed dishes and spent my time with nature. Spending time with nature is healing. I took a mat, laid it on the floor with my pillow and relaxed. Fresh air soothes my skin and body, I feel refreshed and sound. I realized that nature keeps humans alive. The animals, tall trees, plants and flowers. And a clean environment. Yesterday I washed my bedsheets and pillowcases, at night I slept so well just like a baby. The sleep came with ease, without stress. Then I could see that a dirty environment also contribute to pains, worries and problems. When my environment is clean, my mind is cleared free of problems and calm. So it's 12:37pm and I am all here alone listening to the songs of the birds, the sound of moving vehicles, the barking of dogs and the breeze from trees and plants. I am living one day at a time.  I don't really have anything doing other than cooking, resting, sleeping, surfing the internet, reading articles,

Good afternoon guys! It's holiday time and I am partly happy. I am happy that I am staying home, then I am sad that I won't get a pay. This is what happens when you work as a professional teacher in a private school in Nigeria. So, I am happy now I have all the time to myself. You know the teaching profession is one profession that gives so much time. I have time for myself. I have time for my family and my loved ones. And I have time to blog. During this holiday I am going to rest, eat, watch YouTube and have fun. This morning, I woke up early, washed dishes, washed my bedsheets and pillowcases. I hand wash them, I don't have a washing machine. I took my bath and ate breakfast. I feel so lazy. I stay on my bed, cuddle and feel like doing nothing. I lay on bed and rest as I watches the day go by. I learned to prioritize my rest and self-care. I don't stress myself beyond limit and I don't engage in things that are difficult for me to handle. I do the things I can an

It's okay every girl gets a boyfriend, right? Yes, but I gave up on dating a long time ago. Guys didn't see me attractive enough so I gave up. This made me hate myself. Some years ago I was body shamed. I was called skinny and felt so worthless of being loved. I wanted love desperately. Everyone needs love in his or her life. I wanted sex too. I wanted someone who could admire and touch my body but all the guys I ever met made me feel worthless about myself. There, I gave up on dating. The dating I had then wasn't serious. I was unlucky to meet guys who were after the looks of a girl rather than the love. No guy loved me the way I wanted and I hated myself until I made peace with myself and loved myself. Now, I am my first love. Any other love comes second or last. I take myself out, I eat what I want, I buy the things I want. I buy my body cream. I treat myself. I don't wait for a boyfriend to do all that for me. And some people say that's so selfish of me. I rathe

I can't really tell what makes me happy. Sometimes I can be so happy without anything being responsible for it. And other times, money, colleagues, success, freedom can make me happy. I feel happy when I come on my blog, write and people all over the world read my blog. I feel happy to own a small blog. Not for money but for fun. I enjoy blogging. I say this over and over again because I mean it. Also, I enjoy a stress free life. Having things without stress, getting things without stress, working hard but not stressing. I dislike stress and suffering. It makes me look old and worn-out. I feel happy talking about myself. I feel happy having a voice. Like I can make blogging a career because it is what I love most. I love entertainment.  Freedom makes me happy. The kind of life where no one cages you, no one stops you from achieving your dreams or doing a task. I love that kind of life and I am so far from it. I believe one day all my dreams will come through and I won't have to

Before I tell you all the things I love, let me tell you what others love about me. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven and more people have really loved my voice on phone. I find it surprising because to me, my voice is just nothing but many people love it. Also, people love that I am calm and humble. Though I can be troublesome sometimes, I love how people see good qualities in me and compliment it. So, the things I love is first, a peaceful and serene environment. You know my mind is at peace and rest in such an environment. No worries, no troubles and no running around. I feel good to wake up early and do chores on time. Waking up early and starting the day on a good mood makes my day. I love working. Yes, I love being busy. Either with a hobby or doing chores. Some afternoons when I am less tired I sweep the house and make it clean. I hate being forced to work. So so much. So I enjoy doing things at free will rather than forced. I don't see any fun in a forced work.  On a

I dislike noise. I want to be heard, but not seen. It is very okay for me that way. I am a shy person who sees noise and attention as distractions. This way I can't be a celebrity. I run far away from it each time. Because first, I won't be allowed to be human. Everyone's eyes and attention will be on me and that isn't really cool. And at a point you will try so well to protect yourself and get security. You can't even be safe. So, I like the everyday life where I go my way, do my thing, I don't have headaches and nobody else has headaches. I can work anywhere and nobody comes to tell me, “You are our role model, what do you do here?" And the internet has so much provided me with such life, even though I chose to remain anonymous. Now, I am concerned about self-care and mental health. It is not easy to be perfect but I try my best to be a good human being to my fellow human. I realized that the only thing that excites me is blogging. With the fear, anxiety

I have always imagined how a mixed race looks like. I have imagined a Nigerian get married to a white man and the beautiful children thereof. The other day on Facebook, I saw a South African woman married to a Korean man with seven beautiful children from the marriage. You know, my thoughts have always been on the adaptation of culture, place and food. Mostly food and weather. I kept wondering how on earth can a Korean man love an African woman. Well, I am not surprise. Things happen. I love seeing mixed race. It's absolutely beautiful. I know a boy whose father is from Egypt and his mother, a Nigerian. He has lived in Nigeria right from his birth and would be going to Egypt when he reaches 18 years. And this boy looks so handsome and smart. I have also wondered if these men are abusive like some of our African men. Because on pictures they look so nice and real. Do they also eat African meals? I am yet to read stories of Africans, Nigerians who got married to the white race.  How

No grudges! It's just personal. I have been a fan of late marriages. I deeply admire those who marry in their 30s and 40s than those who marry in their 20s. I feel time and age makes human grow with experience. So who I was 20 years ago is not the same person I am today. Humans grow, humans change, needs and wants change too with time. It doesn't usually sit well with me seeing a girl of 20 married without education and stays at home complaining everyday of an abusive husband. I don't smile to all these things. I feel at 30s and 40s a woman may have discovered herself, have a job, have a business, have money and can make decisions for herself. Marrying late is good and can also be a bad decision. It all depends on the individual. This is why I like late marriage. 1. You have enough time to get education As a single lady, you have every time to yourself. You can use that time to get the education you want. Because when husband comes and children start knocking, you barely ha

This is it's time. It rained so heavily yesterday. I left the school for home only to get disturbed by the rain. And like others, I stopped, stood at a corner and waited for the rain to stop. I wasn't with a car nor an umbrella. The overflowing water was messy. No car was able to drive pass the floor. When the rain stopped, I headed home. Today, it rained again. This time around I left work early so rain couldn't meet me outside. Just like yesterday, it rained so heavily. These are the things I wished I had during rainy season. First, an umbrella- it serves as a shield against rain and sun. Umbrella is useful for any season but I like using it most when it rains. A car Having a car even if it is not an expensive one can save you from a lot of stress and in times of emergency. During rainy days, you rarely see a cab or a good Nigerian Keke due to the weather, so it is good you get your own car. Food Having food at home serves you the expenses of eating outside. You save your

I let go. I let go of all the pains, trauma and playing a victim. I get tired of blaming my father without forgiving him. I get so tired of expecting so much from my father and others without even forgiving them. I forgive them today and I let go of every burden, fears, expectations and unhappiness. He is human too. I forgive him. Also, I let go of putting all my hope in a person. I let go of putting my hope in one basket. It does truly disappoint and hurt so well. So, I forgive. I chose to let go of grudges, of murmuring, complain or making a story. I forgive everyone and anyone that wronged me. I hope they forgive me too.  Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

One thing the artists do is looking beyond, reading beyond and being human. A normal person who is not skilled with critical thinking and artistic skills can't do that. So, art makes us human. This is why you see someone writes A and most of the comments look like a B. That is, something out of the point.  A lot of humans read. Many read for fun. They don't care if they understand what is been said or not, they can just go ahead and give comments. Sometimes irrelevant comments. So if a child should say, “ I was whipped by my father yesterday" or “ My teacher whipped me for going late to school." The first thing that anyone would think of is, the child is absolutely a stubborn child or the child is a bad child. But art makes us look beyond. What makes a good child stubborn? How can a stubborn child change or be able to fit into the environment he finds himself? Why do children go to school late? In my course of writing and reading, I have seen art as a field that makes

One of this days, I felt a pain then a discharge. I thought it was my ovulation period until the pains got worst, I couldn't bear it. I inserted a finger to check the discharge, then I saw a whitish discharge not ovulation but yeast infection. And I don't have a boyfriend, I wondered where the infection came from. My mother was shocked, she asked if I had a boyfriend and I told her no. My colleagues were also shocked when I told them I had an infection. I began to wonder. Many humans feel that vaginal infection comes as a result of sex or being infected. No, just look at me. Who could imagined I would have an infection. I looked at my soap, I looked at the way I bath. Nobody told me that fragrance soap and so much washing or cleaning is a no, no down there. So, since I couldn't bear the pains anymore, I got to a clinic and the doctor there diagnosed me of yeast infection. I was given medication and now I am a bit relieved. This has been my first time of encountering a vagin

I feel the world would be much better if humans were not materialistic. The world would be much better if people didn't join harmful groups, cult or whatever humans pledge to to harm their fellow humans and damage humanity. Materialism has led to many evils. Humans because of money or certain privileges do evil to each other. They get education, then they need a job. They get a job, then they need money. They get money, then they need a car. They get a car, then they need a house. They get a house, then they need something else. Human needs and wants are endless and insatiable. Humans place their happiness and peace on the outside world; on money, on house, on cars, on degrees, on relationship status, on children, and they neglect themselves, their home and their inner peace. Life is safer without materialism. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️