Elizabeth Diaries

Today I am grateful for the following things. I am grateful for peace. I am grateful for witnessing this beautiful day. I am grateful for having a roof on my head and food on my table. I am grateful for my blog. I am grateful for happiness. I am grateful for my colleague's wedding coming up on November. I am happy for her. I am grateful for all the wonderful people I have met online. I am grateful for the present. Nothing happening much but I am grateful for it. I am grateful for love. Self love and the courage to love others. I am grateful for God's love.

Over the years, I kept wondering why most humans are terrible and why some humans are more soft, gentle and understanding than others. While some are harsh, mean, strict and overbearing. Then I thought it might be from their upbringing, their experiences, the parenting they saw or something else but I realized that there is more to just upbringing and experiences. So here are the reasons why most humans are terrible.  Many humans just live life without a purpose. Many humans don't have a hobby. They prefer sex, drinking alcohol and taking drugs as a form of releasing stress. Many humans haven't completely healed from their past, emotional pains, bitterness and childhood traumas. Many humans live life with high expectations. Many humans see others as a means to control, rule, make money and lead.  Many humans are faced with extremism. Extreme way of life and behaviours. Many humans focus so much on money and less on passion. Many humans are so full of pride. They can't be hu...

 Remember, you can't have everything in life. Maybe you may have everything, you didn't get them all at the same time, but you can definitely have a better life with what you have. You can have a better future, a better experience, a better life journey it all depends on you and what you want. So here are a few tips to getting a better life. Not a survival life, but a better life. Get Educated Education has never gone out of age nor season. Get informed, be aware of everything that is happening around and within you. It pays less to be ignorant than to be educated. You are at a greater advantage when you are educated. Go to school, learn, educate yourself. This way, chances are you will get a better life. Education exposes you to many experiences and opportunities. 2. Have a Purpose You wouldn't want to be going through life cluelessly. Would you? So you got to make plans and live a purposeful life. Where do you see yourself in the next five or ten years? Write down those d...

Work is life, life is work. Work is fulfillment. Work saves us from depression, anxiety, frustrations of life, death and troubles. Also, it pays our bills. So a person who isn't working is a dead soul. Even though your parents are well to do or your brother, husband or whosoever is catering for you, it is good you have something doing. This is very necessary because at the end of the day, you see a housewife complaining about money and her husband's behaviours. What happens when they person catering for you dies or in cases of accident or eventuality? Everyone was born with a purpose, a calling and dreams. You discover your purpose and pursue your self development. You go to school, you learn a trade or skill, you perfect your craft, you create time for yourself and your hobbies, you develop yourself in any way you can. Apart from the money that work brings, work gives happiness and a sense of purpose. You are defined by your work and service to others. Moreover, work takes you...

 The world needs healing, organizations need healing, families need healing, homes need healing, individuals need healing and a rebirth of humanity. I came across lots of complaints of children about abusive parenting on Facebook, Twitter, Quora and Nairaland and I felt sad. Sad that I had experienced all of that and I know where the shoe pinches. You need to go through the horrible experiences to be sensitive to dysfunctionality. We need holistic healing. We have to heal physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, emotionally and financially. Hurt people hurt others. The reason why we have many angry, depressed, sadist and frustrated humans is because humans don't heal. Damaged generation keep damaging their kids and the abusive cycle continues. And we don't invite or even see the need for counselors, psychologist and therapist in our lives. I found it difficult healing trauma because I stayed with humans who didn't understand me. They might have loved me but the e...

  Before any other thing, I would like to say that there is an urgent need for counselors and psychologist in Nigeria. There is so much hardship, suffering, humans are frustrated, going through trauma or healing from trauma. Many people are depressed, jobless and even isolated. Some people don't have friends or people to talk to or even listen to them without judging them. So, the first thing that comes to people's mind is to post their problems on social media, blow an alarm or call for help or just to feel relieved a bit. I don't blame them or say how immature they are, because when people are frustrated the last thing on their mind is shame. When the heat is so much and they can't take it anymore, it calls for alarm blowing. No one is perfect anymore. I don't blame any living human being who cried for help on social media at some point. Especially feeling stuck in a terrible situation. It could be anyone and in most case worst than that. But what humans say or do...

 Today I am grateful for I am grateful for life. I am grateful for seeing the month of September. I am grateful for happiness. I am grateful for the ability to journal my past, present and future. I am grateful I discovered blogging. It has helped me in various ways. I am grateful for slow living. I try not to rush anything or do things that are way above me. I am grateful I can fix my problems without being too emotional. I am grateful that sometimes I can make decisions without my emotions interfering. I am grateful for self love and care. In a suppose selfish and carefree world, this is what has kept me sane. I am grateful, now I no longer blame anyone for my problems. I face my problems while ensuring I avoid toxicity. I am grateful I am still single and discovering myself. It has never been in my plan to marry early. I wished to build my career first before marriage. I probably can't tell the kind of person I would be getting married to, so it's good to do first thing firs...

Dear Diary, It's been a long time since I wrote this way. I forgot so soon how writing or chatting with a friend feels like. Today, I am grateful for; Love I am grateful for self care and self acceptance. I am grateful for happiness. I am grateful for peace. I am grateful for life. I am grateful for living life at 25. Some days, it is happy, fun, interesting, entertaining while some days, it is dark, sad, gloomy and bitter. I love every bit of the journey. I have learnt a lot from others especially from my parents and older sister. I am grateful I have food on my table and water to drink. I am grateful for healing. I am grateful for growth. I am grateful for everything. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️  

In this article, I won't say leave your abusive home, run away from your parents or start living in isolation. No! I can't do that. This advice you see or read on the internet or watch people say is so hard to do. Damn so hard! Especially when you are a minor, dependant, no job, no savings, very broke and even hopeless. I have had my own share of the experience so I can tell how difficult that is. And again, no matter how bad your family is, don't go telling everyone how terrible your family is. Don't be vulnerable with everyone. Don't point fingers, other fingers would be pointing back at you. So be matured, act matured, heal in a matured way.  I know how pained, hurt, broken you are, but heal your pains the right way so you won't have things bouncing back or backfiring at you. I am saying this from experience and I wish you a healthy healing. One thing I keep saying to anyone who has been abused is that, it's not your fault to be born into dysfunctionality...

 I say this again and again. Be intentional about anything you want in life. Be intentional about your journey, your dreams, your wants and your healing. Along my healing journey, I discovered the power of intentions. Say what you want and stick to it. Do what you want to do and stick to it. Be consistent at it. Choose what makes you happy and that which fulfills you. Don't chose anything for yourself because a friend said so, your parents said so or everyone said so. Do things with intention. Have a purpose and the reason you do the things you do. Focus! Always focus. There are a whole lot of distractions out there that can make you stumble if you are not focused. Be intentional about your healing. Personally, I had to say no to dating and marriage until I healed completely. I don't want to repeat the mistakes I saw my mother or any other woman did. I want peace and calmness. This is why I take my education seriously and dedicate years to building up myself. I can't imagin...

 I knew I needed a counselor, a therapist, a psychiatrist or a psychologist when I got through with secondary school and had to wait another year to rewrite my JAMB 2013 to 2015. My stay at home wasn't really a good one and even 2018 when I was done with my university, stayed at home for over two years and waited for my convocation so I could go for NYSC.  I didn't have a job or a skill to keep me busy. I was so frustrated and stuck at home with my Nigerian parents. And you probably would know how it feels to graduate from school and have nothing doing while still feeding from parents. 2018- 2020 were the years I felt depressed, sad, frustrated and started having thoughts of suicide. My parents loved me but they weren't you understanding as I wanted them to be. Gosh! The frustrations, anxiety disorder and depression almost took my life. I didn't know what to do with my life anymore. I kept running from house to house looking for safety and love but no one was ready to a...

I discovered a new hobby, reading blogs. Surfing the internet and reading personal blogs is my new found hobby. I feel inspired and encouraged reading the lives of others especially a diary, journal or personal blogs. And I do lots of research online too. Every morning, I peep through www.makingsenseofcent.com. Making Sense of Cent is a personal finance blog owned by Micheal. She started the blog to document her student loan debt. I enjoy visiting her site even now than ever when I read she is pregnant and would be expecting her baby in December. I am super excited and waiting to see her beautiful baby. Another blog I visit is www.Bellanaija.com. A lifestyle and entertainment blog owned by Uche Pedro. In her blog, you see beautiful brides, happily ever after marriage and beautiful Nigerian weddings and couples. One thing I love about Bella Naija is her positivity towards marriage. Even though many marriages today are collapsing, she till put up beautiful and lovely stories of marriage....

 Today I am grateful for life. I am grateful for good health. I am grateful for peace. Just being happy without anything being responsible for it. I am grateful for all the things I have in my life. I am grateful for my friends and the good people I have around me. I am grateful for love. I haven't found one yet but I am grateful. I am grateful for slow living. Waking up everyday, not rushing over anything and just living. So far, the feeling is wonderful. And I learned to trust God through the frustrations, obstacles, fears, tears and rejections. In my life I have seen the power of God. This is why I keep myself for Him and stay faithful to Him. No matter who I turn out to be, I will be grateful to God. I have gone through a lot already but each day, I thank God that those obstacles, bitterness and frustrations never took my life. I kept living. So everyday I live, breathe and see a new day, I give God praises.  Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

I have rested and rested enough. I wake up, sleep, eat and repeat same the next day. I would have gone to take the children on holiday lessons but the distance and the transportation has been so much for me. I can't continue that way again. I start searching for schools close by. Looking at my finances, I have really spent lots of money on transportation. My whole salary goes to transportation and it's draining me. I don't have any savings for myself neither can I do anything good with my pay apart from buying my personal stuff. A month I spend over 10k on transportation. So I really want to reduce cost and spend less. So, let's see what happens as life goes on. I will be keeping account of money I spend a month. I believe everything will be well with God's grace. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

  Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com The night before 31st July got us really thinking. Of death, of damages and just anything negative. All along, our minds had never rested. Same topic every month until it became depressing. My sister was diagnosed of fibroid and until the fibroid was taken out, she would have been constantly disturbed. This was the first time of going through such thing. A fibroid. Though my father had an operation about four years ago but it was hyena, not fibroid. So, we were so scared. The whole family was scared. Even though she had tried the local medicine of fibroid removal, none actually worked. She kept spending resources until she decided to be operated on. On the morning of the operation day, my mother prayed so hard. In fact she started crying even after they had booked a professional doctor who specializes on operation, she was still scared. My anxiety increased since I am so allergic to negativity. I kept on assuring myself that all will be well. The...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com Today I am grateful for life. I am grateful I am single. And I don't have a serious responsibility apart from taking care of myself and blogging my experiences. I am grateful I am able to love myself, accept my flaws, my body size and shape and my skin colour. I am grateful for my family member who had a successful operation. This is a story for another day. I shall share the story with you all soon. I have nothing really going on in my life but I am grateful for the life I have in me. I am grateful for embracing slow living. I am grateful for the holidays. I eat, relax, rest, sleep, blog, cook, wash, clean, chat, and take it over the next day. I have been to the hospital and I have witnessed that life is worth living. And you won't appreciate life and good health until you are inflicted with pains and sickness. A young girl was operated on. She had appendicitis, another fibroid, another a baby. And they all went successful. So I am really grat...

Elizabethokondiaries.blogspot.com    Today, I am grateful for 1. A new month, August. 2. I am grateful for life. 3. I am grateful for my blog. 4. I am grateful for having complete hands. 5. I am grateful for the holiday. 6. I am grateful for peace and happiness. 7. I am grateful for constant power supply. 8. I am grateful for love. Last month I met amazing people that touched my life. 9. I am grateful for contentment. The little I have, I am satisfied with it. 10. I am grateful for a big testimony. When the time is right, I will share it.  19. I am grateful I learned a lot in the month of July. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

Self-care has helped me so far. Through it I have compassion, love, mercy and empathy to myself and others. This is how I care for myself. 1. I do the things I love. It is stress free and enjoyable. I read, I journal. I write out my feelings, thoughts and emotions. This clears my mind. 2. I make a new hair. It relaxes and relief stress. 3. I live in the present. I put negative thought aside and focus on living in the present. 4. I live a day at a time. I don't rush things anymore. This cools down my anxiety. 6. I wake up early. I sit with nature. 7. I sleep and take a break. 8. I worry less about money. Money is important but I don't make it the center of my life. 9. I sit out with friends and interact with love ones. I call and have a good chat with them. 10. I drink water and take fruits each day. 11. I don't spend so much money on clothing. The little I have I wash them and keep it clean. 12. I keep my environment clean. A dirty environment can affect your mind, body and...

Today  I am grateful for 1. Life 2. Sound health and mind 3. Happiness 4. I am grateful for blogging. 5. I am grateful for the holiday. I have had time to rest and no disturbance. 6. I am grateful for my body. Every part of me is complete and without pains. 7. I am grateful for my family. 8. I am grateful for websites, blogs, social media and technology which has brought everyone together. 9. I am grateful for the month of July which is getting to it's end. 10. I am grateful for everything. 11. I am grateful to God. Elizabeth Diaries ❤️

Today, I woke up early, washed my hands, face and legs. I washed dishes and spent my time with nature. Spending time with nature is healing. I took a mat, laid it on the floor with my pillow and relaxed. Fresh air soothes my skin and body, I feel refreshed and sound. I realized that nature keeps humans alive. The animals, tall trees, plants and flowers. And a clean environment. Yesterday I washed my bedsheets and pillowcases, at night I slept so well just like a baby. The sleep came with ease, without stress. Then I could see that a dirty environment also contribute to pains, worries and problems. When my environment is clean, my mind is cleared free of problems and calm. So it's 12:37pm and I am all here alone listening to the songs of the birds, the sound of moving vehicles, the barking of dogs and the breeze from trees and plants. I am living one day at a time.  I don't really have anything doing other than cooking, resting, sleeping, surfing the internet, reading articles, ...